Dating Tips

How matches are made in online dating


Online dating opens up possibilities, meeting people, building relationships and even getting married. Once you have already signed for a service and uploaded your profile in the site, the dating site would come up with different possible matches.

Online dating sites would often times advertise their success rates. But how do they provide users of possible matches? They do not just pick out random people and put them in similar categories. There are test based online dating sites. They would ask users to answer different question. The scores would determine the prospective dates for a certain user.

Some experts say that test based sites could deliver better results compared with other online dating sites.

Test based dating sites would be able to factor-in values, behavior, and other psychological aspects when marching users. Free online dating sites would match people based on their age, location and other factors which are supplied while building the user’s profile. The user would then make a choice based on what he or she has seen on the profile and pictures of the possible matches.

In other sites, the user could state which attribute is important for them. They could rank their choices and each would be given a corresponding score. The accumulated score will help the site determine which matches may interest the user. Other sites make it more complicated. They would use surveys and mathematical algorithms to search for matches. These algorithms would be able to “predict” compatibility and if relationship is possible.

Making the user profile is very important in internet sites. Physical attributes like height, weight, and body type are usually the things that people would look for their possible matches. Interests and activities even political and religious beliefs are factors when searching for dates. In some cultures, online dating sites are not mainly used for finding love matches. They would prefer having social conversations rather than date.

Adding or uploading a photo is another important step. Online daters are always reminded to be cautious with the personal identification information that they put in their profiles, like address, home phone number, full name and employer, most especially the social security number.

Online dating sites would consider different factors when sending possible matches to users.

For example, men are said to be prefer a larger selection of matches belonging in a specific type. They are also more visually oriented which is why they would prefer responding to women who have attractive photos. Women, on the other hand, prefer to have “super matches” sent to them. These “super matches” are supposed to be perfect matches.

For example, men are said to be prefer a larger selection of matches belonging in a specific type. They are also more visually oriented which is why they would prefer responding to women who have attractive photos. Women, on the other hand, prefer to have “super matches” sent to them. These “super matches” are supposed to be perfect matches. Online dating sites would include different applications for the members to use. They would usually have games, online chat, sending emails, calling, winks, emoticons, and sending virtual gifts to create venues where users could connect with other users and build possible relationships.

In the end, it is still the user who would have control. The user is still the one in control when choosing who to connect with, what information to provide and what behavior and attributes important to them. Online dating sites only provide avenues and opportunities for people to meet possible love interest and even friends. It is still up to the user to communicate and build a foundation of a relationship over time. photo credit to


Making your Online Dating profile Noticed

  Making-your-Online-Dating-profile-NoticedGetting responses from online dating sites would depend on how you “advertise” yourself. Your online dating profile would attract your possible matches. Because there are too many member users, getting your profile noticed may be a problem.

Whenever you are creating your user profile in any online dating site, honesty should be exercised. Any kind of relationship is always rooted on honesty and trust. An honest profile means you are not changing any personal information just to attract more people.
  • Photos

Studies showed that men are more visually-oriented while women would prefer checking the profile description. Photos are important since these will be what people would keep pictured in their mind whenever they are chatting with you. It may not be that important to you but it is definitely important to people who would be viewing your profile.

If you want people to know your special interests like hiking or outdoor trekking then let your photos speak for you. This would let people know something about you immediately and get the attention of those who have similar interests. But avoid posting a picture where users could barely recognize your face compared with the giant tree beside you. Post the most recent one.
  • Personal information

You do not have to use your full name, this is an important precaution since a full name and home phone number could be used to trace your home address and other important information. Avoid using names like “nutty” and similar nicks, such names would give a different impression. Don’t just list the good things about you, you do not want to sound “too perfect”, they may mistake you for a scammer. Avoid writing sob stories like recent break-up or bitter previous relationships. Don’t make it too long.
  • Caption/headers

Usually, profiles would need something that would catch the eye of the person looking at the database. Nobody wants to read a profile that is shouting with desperation like “I’m begging you to check my profile”. Boring requests like “please check my profile”, is not getting any attention either. Overconfident headings like “I’m the sexiest man ever”, will sure capture interest but will fail to retain it if your photo and personal info do not match. The best thing to do is write a creative heading. You could change it from time to time. Make sure to provide some thought on it, you could even check Favorited books if they may have something that would match your personality.
  • Check, edit and update

Check your profile. The reason why you may not be getting any messages is that your profile may have incorrect grammar or spelling. Aside from that, you can change or tweak it a bit. Maintain a positive attitude in your profile.

When writing your online dating profile, make sure that it is simple and sincere. Always focus on what you want. Identifying what you want makes it easier for you to write your profile. Besides, knowing your prospect would be able to help you understand who you are and what you want. photo credit to


Online Dating Etiquette

  Online-Dating-EtiquetteMore and more people are becoming interested on online dating. It is one of the fastest growing services offered on the internet. according to some research companies the industry has reached a financial growth of over Billion Dollars . Emerging as one of the major influences in building relationships, online dating has social manners different with “regular” or “tradition” dating attitude.

Conducting yourself properly while communicating online will earn you good friends and even the love of your life. But what are these online dating manners and etiquette?

  • Honesty is important. Truthfully answer the questions asked by the site administrator when setting up your profile. Don’t makeup things about yourself. What if you met a person online that could possibly lead into a relationship? They would surely learn about the things you’ve made up.
   Online dating allows you to connect with other people by sending emails. The main problem is when nobody responds to those emails. Is it okay to send messages to several people at once?

YES, it is okay. According to surveys, in every three to five messages sent, you will be assured of one response.

  • It is polite to reply to messages sent to you. But how do you respond to somebody you are not interested in? For some people not responding is rude, but actually it is a better way than telling people you do not like them. Just keep in mind that you do not have to take it personally if you did not receive any reply, either. However, being uninterested does not mean you would have to be rude. If a person has sent you a very nice letter, then reply and at least let them know that you are not interested.
  • When sending replies, make sure that they are personalized and not a standard letter you send to everybody. Even if you have too much on your hands, respond appropriately. After all, you are dealing with people who have real emotions.
  • Avoid asking personal questions like employment or personal address, especially if it is just the first time you have talked online. If someone persists on asking you this information you could always say that you do not share personal info with people you’ve just met.
  • Don’t be pushy. Let things take their course. In short, take it slowly, give your friendship enough time to develop. You do not have to force somebody to meet you.
  • When meeting face to face, for the first time, follow the safety and security rules. For example, meet in a public crowded place. To protect privacy, it is better to get there on the meeting place on your own rather than picking up and dropping off your date.
  • After meeting face-to-face, send or say thank you even if there are no sparks during the date.
  • If you and your date feel that there seems to be no spark in the date, then it is okay to gradually stop communicating or fade away. But if one party contacts the other, always acknowledge the person and explain that there seems to be something missing from the date and say that you are not a good match. Always say thank you.
  • If you are already dating somebody you’ve met online, then take your profile down. Online dating sites would allow you to change your status, without cancelling your membership. Also, avoid corresponding with other people.
  • Breaking up is another issue. Online dating experts would recommend that for those people who have only met the person once or twice, you could break up the relationship or dating through email. But if you have been going out on dates more than that, then you would have to break the news face-to-face.
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When-Dating-Gets-EasyWhen Dating Gets Easy!

  Tired of the same old game? Of blind dates arriving late? Of going out with a friend’s friend whose got bad breath? If you’re single and looking for more excitement in your love life than the usual coffee-on-a-Friday-night date, here’s something that just might add spice to your usual dating scene.

With just a few clicks, you can meet new people, enjoy an interesting conversation, and probably, snag a boyfriend or girlfriend or a special someone for yourself.

That’s what Online Dating offers you, and they can offer more.

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Online-Dating-SecretsOnline Dating Secrets

Online dating sites would often times boast about their success in connecting people and helping them build relationships. This claim could actually be true, since 150,000 marriages every year happen because on online dating, according to Online Dating Magazine. But not everyone is successful in online dating. There are some users who, after more than a month of posting their profiles, would still not solicit any kind of response. What are the secrets of these 150,000 happy couples?

There are different tips on how you can make yourself noticeable in online dating sites.

The most important is the opening line or headline. Whenever people are searching for matches and your profile is a suitable match, the first thing they would notice is the picture and the headline. This would make the first impression, and you want to give them a headline that would peak their interest.

Proper profile writing would even boost the number of people checking your profile. Your profile should be written creatively without fabricating any kind of information. For example, if you’re an outdoors-y person, you do not say that straight-away, you let them know how great you are in the outdoors. Tell something about the most memorable outdoor event you have done.

Avoid negativity when writing your profile. Exhibit confidence, but don’t sound too overconfident or perfect.

Crazy as it sounds, nobody wants to connect with somebody who is too perfect. Some would say that this is a sign of scam or fraud, while others say that they are shy to contact “perfect” people.

Your profile should express your characteristics and what kind of relationship you are after. Indicate good characteristics, but also show that you have quirkiness in your personality, too. Don’t try to be somebody you are not. To encourage them to reply or respond, in your profile invite them to send you a message or chat with you.

Building relationships does not only rely on how your profile is written. Whenever you received an email from a person that does not attract you (based on the photo), do not disregard the person immediately. Read the person’s profile, first. When responding to their messages, be polite. Being uninterested does not give you any excuse to be hurtful and insensitive of other people’s feelings.

If you have sent a message and the person does not reply, be patient.

It’s possible that he or she has received lot of messages and its taking him a while to answer them all. Actually, you could send messages to several people at once. Normally, you would be able to get one reply out of five messages sent.

When communicating, avoid talking about personal things like health problems, family issues and financial problems. After all, who would like to talk about these stories when you have just known each other. As the relationship progress, it is your choice to open up without giving away too much personal identification or information.

If you have met the person that you think is suitable for you, then you could start meeting online.

The biggest problem of some online dating users is that they think that online dating means online/ virtual affair. Some members would often say that their online relationship is good, meeting face to face will just make the good things bad. That is not true. Remember your objective which is building relationships. You can never reach that and become successful if you’re always stuck on the idea that everything is virtual/ make-believe. Because they are not and more than 150,000 people every year agree with you. photo credit to


Seniors and Elderly Online Dating

Senoirs-and-Elderly-Online-DatingWho says online dating is only for the young ones?

Seniors show that those who are young at heart could find second chances online. According to the Lost Angeles Times, in one of the largest dating sites, the membership for those who are 65 years old and above increased by 122% . The American census showed that the number of divorced people increased by 10% compared with its previous figures.

Technology is helping seniors to find their second chances in love. A survey conducted by American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) showed that online dating sites are becoming popular among their members. Aside from online dating, the survey also showed that they seniors are finding dates through singles groups, friends, relatives and in their work. To help their members with this kind of relationship, they have included an advice column in their magazine, a part in their website for giving online dating tips and holding talks and discussions about online dating.

According to Mr. Ron Geraci, an editor at AARP Magazine, elderly people are joining online dating sites not only to find lasting relationships, but also to find friends who would be able to share social activities and other similar interests. What’s good about dating sites is that they can narrow the choices according to their geographical location, age and other preference.

The benefits of meeting or being involved in online dating is that seniors would be able to get to know the person more before they actually meet face to face. Aside from that, elderly people who have been out of the dating for a while would be introduced to dating gradually. They would also be able to know the people more before they actually meet.

Even if it has many benefits, safety and security should not be sacrificed. Online dating sites are not free from any kind of scams or fraud.

Seniors should be warned with posting too much information online. Let them know that posting personal information like home phone number and full name may lead to knowing other valuable information like address and even social security number. In worst cases, online dating can lead to extortion.

It is also important to let them know that not all things that they may see online are actually true. This way, they would not be disappointed. For example, there are people who would claim that they are single when in fact they are really committed in a relationship. Signs that you are talking to a married or a person in a relationship would include late or irregular calling time. Phone calls are rarely answered and they refuse to provide home phone numbers.

Before proceeding with face-to-face meeting, seniors should be warned to take the necessary safeguards.

In fact, online dating sites would give security and safety tips to their members when meeting for the first time.

Meeting in a public and crowded place would be a better idea, and don’t allow them to pick you up or drop you off. It is not that you do not trust them, it is just you’re taking necessary precautions. The first date may lead to a second one and eventually into a relationship. photo credit to


Online Dating For Single Men

Online-Dating-For-Single-MenNo matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want. If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started.

The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends. You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you. photo credit to


Honesty Is The Best Policy


When you join an online dating service, you are looking for a girl that you can like…even come to love. That girl is looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love. What you aren’t looking for is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like or talks like or thinks like. So, in order to find the right girl for you…and she IS out there…you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.

The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship (s). What was right? What was wrong?

What things really made you like the last girl? Which didn’t? Don’t assume that just because you hated that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t.

If you aren’t 6’1″ with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t claim to be. If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.

Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are.

If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all her doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.

Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the online dating service. After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or been found. photo credit to


Tired of Unsuccessful Matches? Try Online Dating

Tired-of-Unsuccessful-Matches-Try-Online-DatingBored of that traditional and unsuccessful blind dates and matches?

If you are, then you probably heard of the so-called online dating. And you want to give it a shot, right? Why not!

Online dating is suitable for an individual who is already tired of unsuccessful blind dates often set by their friends or colleagues. Aside from the hassle of dating somebody whom you do not know or never talk with prior to the scheduled date, you will need to take out your hard-earned dollars on treating your date on a restaurant or anywhere, finding out later on that the two of you have differences that can not be settled; thus saying the words “goodbye” and “a million thanks to you” before you part ways.

With online dating, you are given that avenue and opportunity to know your prospect first by viewing his or her personal profile and determine of you are compatible with him or her. In the same manner, you will not wonder what your prospect looks like. In online dating, the pictures of your prospects are all displayed together with his or her personal profile. Of course, you can assure yourself that whom you will be picking will be your personal choice and not by others.

It offers numerous advantages for singles who are still looking for their dream dates.

First, you can contact your prospects without revealing your true identity, thus saving you in case of embarrassment. You will simply avoid people you think do not match with your interest or any criteria and increasing your chances of meeting people of your interest.

It also allows you to know your prospect’s personal attributes and qualities by means of conversation.

Since your identity is still hidden, both of you are given that opportunity of expressing your thoughts, sentiments, and feelings without that awkward feeling or embarrassment.

You can also find that match that you want through enhanced online dating services. It allows you to browse the profiles of other individuals through their advanced search engines that conduct searches based on various attributes such as age, status, geographical locations, interests, and others. In this way, you can define clearly the date that you want based on your criteria.

Online dating also provides you low cost dating.

You do not need hundreds of dollars to spend on unsuccessful dates or prospects that are still uncertain. Instead, you will spend a small percentage of it in paying membership fees for the services that you are using. It will help you save a lot of money and at the same time finding that true love or dream date of yours. So that you can enjoy online dating, here are some things that you may consider:
  • If you really start from scratch and you do not know where to begin, make some visit on various chat rooms of your interest. From there, you will be able to meet people who have the same preferences and interest just like yours.
  • If you have met someone that gets your attention and interest, you can know this person better through moving on a private chat room. You have high chances of getting any of them to be your date.
  • If they have sent you an email, promptly response to it, even to those persons whom you are not interested with.
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